This Is the Worst Way for INFJs to Earn Self-Worth
INFJ personality types are known for being “the counselor,” and this role comes naturally to them because they genuinely do like to listen to people. They are genuinely interested in the problems of others. This is why INFJ personality types are drawn to psychology.
Many INFJ personality types end up as therapists or in some other counselor role. They tend to play the counselor for friends and family. There is nothing wrong with this, until it becomes the way that the INFJ earns self-worth, and it becomes the only way that the INFJ shows up in relationships.
When the INFJ is always the counselor to friends and family and it is always all about them, the INFJ will end up feeling not seen, not heard, and not valued. The INFJ will also attract people who are addicted to drama, because they are always willing to be their therapist.
This is exhausting and drains the INFJ’s energy. They keep playing out this pattern because it feels natural, since it is the role many INFJs play in their families growing up. INFJs feel useful in this role, and so they do this to “earn their keep” in the relationship. However, if the INFJ is always the counselor they end up resentful, angry, and only in one-sided relationships. There is a way out of this dysfunctional pattern with relationships for INFJ personality types, but it takes awareness and a willingness to break the pattern. Tune into the video to find out exactly what you need to do to break this pattern in your own life.
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